Dealing With My Biggest Fashion Insecurity
For the month of June, I am dedicating all my blog posts to the body positivity movement and I would like to start it off by sharing you how I deal with my biggest fashion insecurity. While the body positivity movement has become mainstream, many girls are still dealing with a lot of issues and insecurities. No matter how many articles you’ve read or videos you’ve watched about body positivity, none of these would matter if you, yourself think you’re not good enough. But I feel that the more people talk about it, the more people will start to realize that the body positivity movement isn’t a fluff. And if I can inspire even at least one person to start loving their body and overcome their fashion insecurities, then I’m all in.
I’ve been promoting body positivity for so many years now, but to say that I don’t get insecure anymore is a lie. Truth is, I struggle all the time. There are days when I don’t love my body. You may not notice it yet (or maybe you did) but if you look closely, my biggest fashion insecurity can be shown on how I dress myself up. I have never ever posted a picture of me flaunting my arms. I avoid wearing sleeveless cause I don’t like showing my big arms. Whenever I buy a strap-on dress or anything with no sleeves, I cover it up with a coat, jacket or a cardigan. I do'n’t think my insecurities hinder me from improving my style, but I must say, having a fashion insecurity limits my choices in wearing what I want.
I always knew my arms are not my greatest asset. Even when I was a few pounds lighter, I rarely wear sleeveless and the only time I did was when I had to go to the beach. But even then, I had a cover up with me all the time. Everything has changed when I started gaining so much weight. Of course, the more I gain weight, the more my arms get bigger, the more I get insecure. The most exposure I did with my arms is probably wearing off shoulders which by the way, is one of my favorite top styles. I admire plus size women who can pull off a sleeveless top with no sweat. They all look perfect as they are but I always thought it wasn’t for me.
When I saw this dress online, I fell in love with its fun and unique print. But since it’s a strap on dress, my fashion insecurity got in the way. I still bought it though as I already have a cardigan in mind to pair this dress with. Problem solved. But as soon as I tried this dress with a cardigan, I learned that it doesn’t look as good as I thought it would be. My husband, who doesn’t usually critic my fashion, said I look so covered. He was right. The dress looks so much better if I wear it as it is. We were about to go out and didn’t have time to change so I forced myself to suck it up. Besides, it’s only going to be for a few hours.
I felt so conscious flaunting my arms. I felt so bare. But at the same time, I felt so liberated. It also helped that my husband reassured me all the time that I look great. I also got compliments from strangers. While I feel that it’s pretty common here in Canada to compliment a stranger (Canadians are so polite!), it still meant a lot to me. This may sound trivial to some but it was literally the first time I exposed my arms like this for a very long time. I felt a sense of relief and I have to admit, it boosted my confidence and made me love my body more.
I’m not going to end this post by saying that I’ve finally overcome my biggest fashion insecurity. BUT, I am hopeful. I love the idea of being free from my insecurity because it means I can easily improve my style: my choices won’t be limited anymore and I can finally wear what I want . Besides, I’ve already done the hardest part. I’ve already worn something against my fashion insecurity so I think wearing it again won’t be as hard as the first time. And that’s the beauty of being body positive. That’s the beauty of loving your body.
At the end of the day, body positivity is not about the times you hated your body. It’s about the times you’ve chosen to love your body despite of your imperfections. It doesn’t mean numbing yourself to what others say or think of you. It means knowing that you are beyond any label. To be body positive is to struggle. To be body positive is to never give up.
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