How To Start Loving Your Body
As we continue to celebrate the body positivity movement on our blog this month, I want to dedicate this week in talking about how to start loving your body. A few weeks ago, I posted about my personal experience in dealing with my biggest fashion insecurity. In the said post, I mentioned that even though body positivity has become a mainstream topic, many people, especially girls, are still struggling with body issues. And quite frankly, I totally understand why. It’s easy to say people should start loving their bodies. But how can you start loving your body if you don’t have any idea how? Telling yourself to love your body is a good start, but keeping that love and awareness each day… especially when you’re given a reason to think otherwise… is another story. So today, I just want to talk about the how’s. I want to talk about how to start loving your body and how to continue to love it each day.
Identify the cause
I always believe that in order to solve a problem, the very first step is to acknowledge that problem. Treat your body issues like any dilemma you’ve encountered in your life. You have to dig deep into your heart and identify why are you having those body issues. Were you bullied when you were younger? Do certain people in your life made you less worthy? Did mainstream media made you feel you need to change yourself in order to “look beautiful”? You need to fully understand where are you coming from. You can’t just ignore the cause because it will always hunt you.
Acknowledge and accept
When you already know what’s keeping you from loving your body, it’s time to finally acknowledge and accept that you are facing some body issues. I't’s going to be the hardest part of the process because acceptance is not easy. Identifying the cause of the problem may bring up a lot of pain from the past… so painful that it may take some time for you to finally let it go. So take all the time you need. Let go of all the pain you’ve experienced from the past. Forgive the people in your life who caused you those body issues. Most of all, forgive yourself for being harsh to yourself.
Avoid toxic people in your life
There are certain people, no matter how much we love and care for them, who maybe the reason why you are not loving your body. Those people who always point out your flaws. Those people who always make you insecure. Those people who always make fun of your appearance. You can give them the benefit of the doubt, sure. Cause maybe, they have a reason for that. Maybe they just want the best for you. Maybe these things are purely constructive criticisms and you are just taking it the wrong way. If you know someone who does this, I don’t think you have to completely avoid them. I think all you need is to talk to them and be open how it affects you cause I’m sure they’d understand. But if someone is doing it just to make fun of you or worse, just to make themselves feel better, then that someone is toxic— either you distance yourself from them or you completely cut them off. It may sound harsh but ask yourself.. do you really need people who constantly bring up your body issues? Do you really need people who tells you, you aren’t good enough? At the end of the day, we need loved ones not bashers. We’re supposed to lift each others’ spirits up, not tear each other down.
Change yourself or change your perspective
Change is good. Please do know that I believe that all sizes are beautiful. But if your current weight (regardless if you’re plus or skinny) is taking a huge toll on your health, then maybe it’s time to consider switching to a healthier lifestyle. Loving your body doesn’t only mean accepting your body. It also means taking care of it. However, don’t change yourself because you want people to like you. That’s not how you deal with your body issues. Change because you love your body, because you love yourself. Change because you want to live a healthy life and you want to be a better person. Change doesn’t need to be physical too. Most of the time, the only thing you need is your mindset. At the end of the day, people will always give their two cents. Now you have the choice to either let it affect you as a person or to completely ignore it.
Accept that it’s going to be a process
It’s not going to be an easy process. It won’t happen overnight. Loving your body is always going to be a struggle and you have to learn how to be okay with that. There’s always going to be moments wherein you feel extra insecure, just like any other people do. The only way to deal with this is to just be patient and to not give up on yourself. We all progress in our own pace. Do what you gotta do and do it for you.